An elephant stepped on my foot when I was a child causing me to lose feeling in three of my toes which is why I drive without a shoe on my right foot. What is something that has happened to you which sounds made up? A real life event that sounds like it was taken out of a bad comedy movie.

The_Five · 2012-05-24T18:23:46.882749+00:00

Well I once got a splinter in my scrotum. Bout 2 inches long.

Abitlessknown · 2012-05-24T18:15:41.652461+00:00

Yep, one of the first things I look for. A girl wearing a wedding/engagement ring signals a waste of time, to me.

go_Pre · 2012-05-24T10:06:28.551170-07:00

YES. good answer, thanks for weighing in!

awkward_peach · 2012-05-24T16:46:42.858884+00:00

You both made me feel so much less alone in this world.. brofist.

ChupeeJune · 2012-05-24T16:29:05.529764+00:00

Not everyone can be awesome like you and I, I suppose :p

EmilBonde · 2012-05-24T16:20:53.461477+00:00

mmmmm yes. and if the flow is too heavy, beej.

ChupeeJune · 2012-05-24T16:17:24.471040+00:00

It just makes things easier for all involved.

And, sadly, sometimes the girl takes it as a challenge... which is no good, but at least I can't be held at fault.

thefword · 2012-05-24T15:52:42.198254+00:00

My long-distance girlfriend recently moved here :) I'm excited to do actual couple things with her and ahem maybe ask a question.

Blondeonblonde20 · 2012-05-24T15:20:03.812535+00:00

Same. Had ex's chop it off and ugh. I want me some long, thick/healthy, womanly hair. Shows me you aren't lazy bout your looks, and it's just a strong preference.

yukizora · 2012-05-24T15:15:00.220010+00:00

Cum and fall the fuck asleep, guiltlessly.

But, i'll still take GF over singlehood anyday.

yukizora · 2012-05-24T15:13:48.677683+00:00

oh dear god...

go_Pre · 2012-05-24T08:06:12.165994-07:00

Diff strokes i suppose, are you one to get off from penetrative sex?

Nuggetized · 2012-05-24T14:34:13.395448+00:00

Read that thread, OP. Good stuff in there.

Don't play games, please. It will be much appreciated.

ChupeeJune · 2012-05-24T14:30:20.074583+00:00

I'm so glad you asked this.

This is me personally: I've slept with LOTS of women. I have a pretty strict moral code too. I consider my honesty my best (and sometimes worst) trait. I've always been very up-front about my intentions... My exact words in the past have been "I'm just un-boyfriend-able right now, I'm not looking for a commitment, and it's only right to let you know that."

Has that resulted in girls stopping pursuit? Yep. And that's good, also to be expected. But it works and is appreciated far more than it causes disappointment.

I feel like far too many guys are dishonest about this because there is a sexual situation in the works for them and they will do ANYTHING to get it. Most of my lesser-experienced guy friends are the ones who pull this shit, where they start psuedo-relationships because they think it will lead to sex more easily, and they really care less about someones feelings. I hate that. They just see sex as a real possibility and let it control their actions.

Sex is just sex. Too many guys care far too much about it. I wish every guy could experience a month or two as a very sexually successful male, so they could remove the hype they have on sex. They need to have it stop being such a commodity, and we all would benefit.

AgonyWilford · 2012-05-24T13:49:11.372282+00:00

See? prime example of being different.

And there one of MY problems is, when it comes to communication: it has to be black and white, or I have no interest in it.

Maybe it's the engineer in me or something. Everything must be neat, orderly, well balanced, scheduled... yes or no, wrong or right... Sometimes I wish I wasn't like that, but I get no enjoyment at all from things being otherwise.

AgonyWilford · 2012-05-24T13:30:18.660983+00:00

My SO isn't really so selfish when he's super dominant. Yes, it's still about him taking what he wants. But because he wants me so much. Y'know?

See, there are two types of that dominant-style for me, I guess... The legit "I can't go a second longer without fucking her" kind, then the "she really enjoys this so I'll put on my 'dominant' mask, give the best acting performance she's ever seen, and please her."

In the legit kind, if you try to slow me down or request something, KILLS the mood. There's really nothing like it; it's animalistic.

In the acting kind, I'm just doing it for your pleasure, which gives me pleasure seeing her feeling so good. I'll take time and get into that character and just do my best for her- and getting into that character is fun in itself.

And a note for clarity, this is just MY opinion/viewpoint. We are all so different...

AgonyWilford · 2012-05-24T06:08:33.363640-07:00

It's just all about communication. I have it set up quite well with my GF- she doesn't get off from normal vaginal sex, so we do lots of 'playtime' before hand and then she gives me the go-ahead, basically. It's diff everytime but we just 'know.'

Although when I DO actually get into that primal-caveman-rapey type of mode, I will likely be selfish... She gets bent over whatever is closest, held down, and FUCKED... and I am fucking for ME on those occasions; i guess that's the drawback of that mindset, i'm going to be selfish because LOOK WHAT YOU'VE DONE TO ME! hahaha.

As far as speaking male, just wait to speak up until you know exactly what it is you want to say. That's the best advice I have on that. That's a two way street though, as a guy you have to understand that a female mind just doesn't work that way and try to meet in the middle.

AgonyWilford · 2012-05-24T05:47:01.206960-07:00

Do you feel a degree of anxiousness toward sex?

Hahaha OH GOD YES. I had issues with the last two serious relationships, kind of gave me a bit of a complex. But as far as sex goes, it's become almost not fun for me anymore, and it's nothing to do with my partners at all. Browse this forum enough and you'll see SO many posts about girls not satisfied, and lasting longer, and size issues, and ED issues, and refractory period issues, and your GF wanting it __ number of times each day. Even if you're the most understanding GF, there is a stupid amount of pressure put on us to perform. You read stories of dudes doing these 2 hour long sex romps and how happy the girl is, and how her ex didn't measure up to her current bf and all... You'll never know what it's like to have that weighing on your head all the time. ESPECIALLY when your body just wants to cum ASAP and you're just fighting it the entire time, because you know that girls are goddamned difficult to get off.

With my ex, it got to the point that I avoided sex- I didn't enjoy it at all. Every romp we had felt like entering a race you knew you were going to lose. As it is now, I enjoy it a lot more but the pressure is still there. Pleasing you ladies... is really way more involved and difficult than pleasing us.

And obviously I show him that I'm enjoying myself.. Is there anything else that can help? Or should I just not worry about it?

I mean, we're not stupid. We know that even if something is up, you'd probably never tell us so you weren't hurting our feelings. So I don't know. I do know that we appreciate clear and concise communication. Think about how you worded your title... Now think about how your actual point was that you just want to feel strongly desired. Why not just say THAT instead of the leading into it? Say what you mean, in the clearest possible terms. He WILL appreciate that. And when we know exactly what the issue is, then he'll likely try and improve it because he cares about you. Just don't make him feel attacked, and you're golden

AgonyWilford · 2012-05-24T12:07:38.503363+00:00

I love the attitude; and it seems to make you girls CRAZY about sex if you think it's something you can change. Turn a girl down, and a lot of the time she'll only want it more. But yeah, sex isn't high up on my list of relationship priorities. Being nice and sweet is the highest in my book. I deal with mean people all day, I want my person to be the most sweet, nice girl I've ever known.

your bf sounds a bit like me then, I suppose. I totally understand the 'insecure' feeling now; it makes him feel a loss of control and that's pretty unsettling- especially if he's been in an emotionally abusive relationship in the past. It puts your mind into a "this is not safe" kind of place.

I'll do the same as him though, go into the rapey-mode, as long as I know that that's what she wants. I'm actually not much of a fan of it, I just really like the positive feedback I get from her when I do get that way. My preferred type of sex is like, boring vanilla sex to be honest. But blowjobs/lubed handjobs top sex in my book, every day of the week.

And blowjobs are amazing to me for a few reasons. 1.) I don't have to worry about performing well, like I would for sex. I can just lay back and enjoy. 2.) Quite simply, the orgasms I have from it are almost always more intense than from just fucking. 3.) It's like a gift from her; a true sign of 'I love you and I approve of how things have been going. 4.) your vagina doesn't have a tongue. Tongues can do amazing things.

AgonyWilford · 2012-05-24T04:45:46.116456-07:00

It's all good. It's actually a point of pride of mine, and it's where I find a lot of power; being able to turn sex down. SO many guys will bend over backwards and do damn near anything you wish just to get inside of you. Me? I'm not like that anymore, and I love not being like that. Sex is awesome, yeah. But it's not too damn impressive to me, and sometimes I'd rather just cum and be done and go to sleep. When I was single, girls would freak out that they'd ask to come over and "fuck like rabbits tonight" and i'd tell them "maybe another time."

Also, my girl wants the same thing as you do, and one of our first ever disagreements came from that... She wanted sex, so I started out with some foreplay... she got very turned on, and I went to go down on her and she clamped her legs shut (playing hard to get I guess, but I had no idea)... Well, I hate the shit out of that and kind of took it as she changed her mind, so I just rolled over and stopped; no big deal in my mind, I will just wait for her to be more ready. Well, she took it personally. She wanted me to get all frustrated and just 'take' her. Now I know that, and now she knows to make it very clear if that is what she wants, to clue me in beforehand. But it does bum her out that I'm not utterly controlled by the thought of sex.

Blowjobs though... mmm. I'll go out of my way for that.

AgonyWilford · 2012-05-24T10:40:20.461228+00:00

Yeah, you just gotta work with it... I hope this was at least somewhat insightful. Just be patient. And screw the people on here saying that he's insecure, like it's some disease and you need to get away from it. Guys are people, and we get just as insecure as anyone else. Sucks that the minute we bring it up, we turn into un-fuckables. lol. Get real, people.

My girl is the same way as you, wants me to be primal and insatiable... Which doesn't always jive, because I can be pretty passive about sex. The downsides of having a lot of it early on in life, I guess. It freaks me out to get so turned on that someone has some sort of control over me, and I shut down. So, it's a delicate dance.

alsartist92 · 2012-05-24T10:28:01.702637+00:00

Hey, I've had a brutal refractory period all my life. Enjoy your nice, short one sir.

AgonyWilford · 2012-05-24T10:27:26.543372+00:00

Hate to tell you this, but that has basically nothing to do with you... When it happens, it happens... and enjoy that. But, as a guy, not a whole lot YOU can do will trigger that; it's just something that happens with me. In fact, if I know you're trying for that, it's even less likely to happen.

The times it does happen though, normally during the daytime for me and it's after seeing her curves or something that just REALLY gets at me... or it's after dirty talk allllll day.

alsartist92 · 2012-05-24T10:21:16.174096+00:00

Hey, at least he's trying! Shit is hard for us... we're made to get in, get done, and get out... anything that ISN'T that, is fighting nature.

go_Pre · 1 day

tis the risk I run when trying to oversimplify. very helpful. you're a feminist?

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