Our house burned down. After digging it out of the ash and 2 hours of scrubbing later...

Salemkylar · 2012-05-25T05:38:49.231566+00:00

glad to see your priorities are in order

citrustar · 14 days

you're right, let's depoliticize this issue so we can get at the warm, fuzzy truth - WE CAN ALL GET ALONG GUYS!

edit: i was being facetious.

pilotofamerica · 24 days

looked at OP's comment history...this guy is a tool indeed.

godsandmonsters · 25 days

actually, it's not peace the U.S. wants in the Middle East. Israel is essential as a regional agitator in order to constantly maintain an unstable situation which allows oil prices to stay high. Check this out: http://bnarchives.yorku.ca/223/02/20060900nb_cheap_wars_aic_web.htm

dickles · 25 days

I think it's absurd how excited people get about a formula to any such human interactions. I do it too, and I find it absurd when I do. There is no "best way" to break up with someone, there's only degrees of shittiness. He's got some good points, but I think every person's relationship is different and you have to stay tuned into who you're with to figure out the best way to break it off with that human being. The best way to break up with someone is by demonstrating that you know them well enough, that you paid attention to who they were enough while you were together, to let them off in a way that won't include something you know will hurt them terribly. Different people need different explanations, different people need to hear it said in different ways. The last and only thing you owe someone when you're breaking up with them when they don't want to break up is a sensitivity to what makes them tick and how you can honor it when letting go.

mod83 · 29 days

the point isn't that the brands aren't different. The point is that when you buy one of these things all the money basically goes to the same place. that's why this is outrageous.

TobogganFetish · 1 month

do girls actually say that???

MrRhymestyle · 1 month

Watching Hey Arnold while high in college, I realized that every character/family is supposed to be fulfilling a racial/ethnic stereotype of itself. The Italian neighbor is always screaming, Gerald has a deep R&B voice, Helga's Polish family is kinda dumb, Harold's Jewish mother dotes on him constantly and is frequently shown making phone calls to her friends to brag about how awesome Harold is, etc. Sigh. They just don't make cartoons like they used to.

MrRhymestyle · 1 month

there's a radiator on the left side.

steve_bb · 1 month

please don't get discouraged. you're not alone. your voice may be tired but it's backed by the truth. the next time someone calls you anti-semitic for criticizing Israel, just refer them to this: http://www.lrb.co.uk/v25/n16/judith-butler/no-its-not-anti-semitic

steve_bb · 1 month

fun fact: israel actually still doesn't have a constitution.

edit: why the downvotes? Do you think I'm lying? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Basic_Laws_of_Israel

Daaaaaaaay-o · 1 month

are you happy in your marriage?

germancurious · 1 month

yes but if I wait to have a UK visa to get this process going I'm gonna lose most of the summer. I've been to Europe plenty of times and never got turned down for a visa before, but I've always been a student or a dependent on my parents before. This is the first time I'm in this weird in-between state.

dejaWoot · 1 month

this is the internet. if you're not offended by something, you're doing it wrong.

salakasto · 1 month

"could" is the operative word. The level of intrusion by the security apparatus experienced by the regular citizenry of East Germany and the smaller Eastern European countries simply didn't exist after the Stalinist era in the USSR. And even under Stalin, the system was nowhere near as efficient as the Stasi had been.

germancurious · 1 month

oooooh omg, I'm sorry, I totally misinterpreted what you meant! You're in love with your wife that you can't seem to get through to, and you think she may not feel the same way about you anymore. Well that's just as shitty, I'm still sorry to hear it :-/ I really hope you're able to figure it out together. It seems a lot of communication about feelings is hard for people because of the communication styles that they experienced when growing up. All that stuff is so hard to navigate, especially when difficulties arise.

germancurious · 1 month

oh jesus, I'm sorry to say this, please don't take it personally, but you're basically recounting my worst nightmare/horrible last relationship. He was still in love with someone else (or thought he was, whatever the case may be he lost interest for me) and I knew it. Living with that knowledge completely devoured me from the inside out. I felt completely inadequate because I thought I could never measure up to this other person he still had feelings for, no matter how much I loved him and what I did for him. I felt he couldn't love me the way he loved her. It sounds like you're in a very painful place and your SO may be as well. What do you mean by 'chopping that tree'? Staying with your wife or trying to get the other woman back? Why bother to do the former if you're trying to do the latter? Doesn't that make the pain and loneliness worse for everyone involved?

germancurious · 1 month

well, I don't think I ever wasn't, though I've certainly learned much about it in the couple of significant relationships I've had. The problem isn't really being nice and understanding, thought, for me it was expressing it properly. Often I didn't know how. I regretted fucking up on that front, even now I still regret it, though in this particular relationship nothing I could have done differently would have really changed the outcome given the other person's problems. What was so sad for me though, was realizing when my own frustrations (which I had trouble articulating and communicating to him) spilled out into behavior that got interpreted as uncaring or un-understanding. It was not at all my intention and I still regret having ever came off that way, even though I know in reality I did a lot of things to more than make up for my short comings on that front. Point is that our communication was all fucked up, and we were both so very lonely together as a result.

germancurious · 1 month

well, that'd be pretty unladylike of me hehe :) Hugs for sure though. I really feel for you. I can imagine that perhaps you feel like your SO just doesn't understand you, and that's one of the roots of the loneliness. Perhaps she (or he) wants to very much though, but doesn't know how, and perhaps they're lonely too. God, I wish it wasn't so fucking hard to be a human being.

germancurious · 1 month

don't think twice it's alright is my favorite bob dylan song. Last year I was in a relationship in which I felt very lonely, and that song was a great comfort in its own sad and beautiful way. thanks for all the suggestions!

germancurious · 1 month

I'm so sorry to hear that. I don't want to give you any sort of advice because I don't know you, and I've never been married. But my hope is that you'll both find a way to be satisfied eventually, hopefully together, but maybe apart. There's nothing worse than feeling lonely while you're with someone, I've definitely felt that before.

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