Homophobia in the gym

Kingsmere · 4 months

With absolutely no respect at all, you are the reason I drop my voice when I'm talking to guys, why I dont walk around with limp wrists or saché my way through the streets. Like I said, working professional in a client facing role, I know how the game is played

Kingsmere · 4 months

I would too! That's creepy. I go into the change rooms, face the wall and change and get out. Again, defense mechanisms.

Kingsmere · 4 months

When I moved to town, it took a week for me to start running into people and when introduced be met with "Oh, your the new guy at the bank!"

I'm in a town of maybe 8K, and they're all gossip more than a bunch of old hens

Kingsmere · 4 months

I won't argue with you that it's judgmental, but it's a defense mechanism I adapted to a long time ago. In dealing with straight men, until I'm sure they're comfortable I adopt of a manner that wouldn't raise eyebrows. By expecting the worst, when reactions are good it feels at that much better

Kingsmere · 4 months

The same thing every time. A black tee shirt and a pair of black track pants. Generic for a reason? Yes.

Kingsmere · 4 months

Not at all offended, given the sitch it's a legitimate question.

I don't use the showers at the gym. I don't feel comfortable doing so. Like anybody Ido glance at what other people around me are doing because I have no clue what I'm at and check my own form against theirs and to see if there's something else I can I corporate into my own routine.

Kingsmere · 4 months

Hahaha, gayface is the theory that gay men share distinct common facial features. Whether this is attributed to emphasis in their expressions or just structure I can't really say. Often it shows in features many would consider feminine - less defined jaw line, strong cheekbones, softer expression in the eyes. Horrible stereotyping but a big part of my gaydar at least Clay Aiken? Gay face. That dude from NSync that came out? Gay face. Anderson Cooper? A very handsome case of the gayface.

Kingsmere · 4 months

"Fuck it" is quite literally the philosophy of my life, but moreso as a reminder for the serenity prayer. I'm not religious but there's a lot to take away from those words. I'm also glad you see the reasons I'm up here, 18 months left!

As much as I try to stay to the side of stealth gay, my career aspirations will likely require me to deal with this sort of adversity anyway and I think this would be a good opportunity to learn to deal with it productively. I have been very lucky and haven't dealt with such blatant "heteronegativity" since I was in junior high. There's also the activist in me that truly believes an ignorant mind is more a result of lack of exposure and understanding. If I bitch out and just go to another gym without dealing with it head on than who will?

Kingsmere · 4 months

Just this actually. Maybe I've been lucky so far, but in the 6 months I've been here, this is my first genuine encounter with it up here. Again, tiny dude that stays to himself, I don't generally put myself in situations that I would consider risky. I've been out for long enough to see danger signs

Kingsmere · 4 months

This was basically my reaction today, I pumped iron like a sonofabitch and I think it may be part of what does keep me going

Kingsmere · 4 months

I have to argue with you there, in hoping for a serious conversation, I have no choice but to assume you're not trolling.

If the presence of a homosexual makes you uncomfortable to such a degree that you ask that the homosexual be removed from the premises, that would indicate a deep seeded fear of those freaky homos.

Kingsmere · 4 months

Bad case of the gay face? I'm pretty easily spotted if you've got an ounce of gaydar. Word tends to travel pretty fast in a tiny town like this and I refuse to make a secret of my sexuality. I've been out since I was 13, I could never go back in. That's not to say I'm a flamer, I'm a working professional in the financial services sector (I came up here to fast track my career) and respect myself and others more than to flaunt an irrelevant part of my life in their face.

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