"Say it again. I DARE you."

I-have-feet · 6 months

You need to report people who say shit like that to the management of the gym. They fuck up the experience for the rest of us.

Tolerance is for traffic and having to wake up on time for work, it isn't for people degrading other people.

bresa · 6 months

Can't people like that be banned from the gym or have their membership revoked?

NSView · 6 months

If I overheard anyone addressing someone else that way, I'd call him on it. If he didn't apologize, I'd take it up with the management and demand his ejection from the establishment in question.

Sometimes, you have to let the bitch out,

Defending yourself isn't being a bitch. You weren't the bitch, he was.

juliastrange · 6 months

I am completely dumbfounded by this! I'm shocked someone would say that to you, especially repeatedly. You're probably not the only one he says this to. I would make a huge deal about it to staff, just continue to go up the ladder. Even if they don't care about your individual situation but they'll care if you threaten to tell people/media about what has been happening and how the staff didn't do anything about it. Even if you don't plan on going to that extreme, if you seem serious they wont want to risk it.

Gah..my mind is still blown.

Professor_Dumbass · 6 months

What kind of a dumbass makes fun of people's weight? Is this seventh grade?

_brightfalls · 6 months

Holy shit, I can't believe someone would actually say those things. It doesn't seem realistic. That's a whole 'nother level of douche that I've never run into before. Sorry you had to deal with that.

lavender_ · 6 months

He totally deserved those words! Good on you!

avalanches · 6 months

You didn't "let the bitch out" you stood up for yourself to a dickhead

Margot23 · 6 months

I don't like this. No sir, I don't like it.

I mean, good for you for telling an asshole off, but I hate the fact that you think you've "let the bitch out" by standing up for yourself.

There's nothing bitchy about saying "no" in any context, and that misconception needs to stop now. It's dangerous and wrong.

alligator19 · 6 months

I completely understand letting the first round fly. When I started running out in public at many pants sizes larger than today, I was terrified of being seen, let alone being mocked. Then, in the matter of a week, the fucks given were precisely zero. There is so much horrendous internal shit that is going on in a person who harasses someone and I want nothing to do with it. I have little patience for it. If I hear it, whether directed at me or at someone else, I am on it like flies on horseshit. You've done other ladies proud because I am sure you are not the only one this douchecanoe has tried to bully out of that space.

If you can, report them. You have every right to be in that space and I am sure this violates policy. If it is a university-run gym, it will violate student code of conduct and you can file a complaint outside of the gym hierarchy. Something to think about since you are probably not alone in being harassed.

cityroasted · 6 months

Winstonia Churchill?

amuosos · 6 months

You're my fucking hero! HIGH-FIVE SISTER. :D

recoil669 · 6 months

That's not being a bitch. That was totally warranted. I'd have pooped in his gym bag to be honest.

xb4r7x · 6 months

XY here... we're not all like that.

Personally, if I see a 'larger' person at the gym the only thing going through my head is 'good for you'.

RP_Fan · 6 months

Let the bitch out?!?!? WHAT?

This is called being an assertive, reasonable person. You let it go the first few times and he kept it up. Fuck that dude.

For those to whom it matters, I am a male.

julieb123 · 6 months

I have to know if you were inspired by the Princess of Genovia? Yours was more awesome though because it was on the spot and REAL and good for you for standing up to an ass like him!

Cole___ · 6 months

Why do I get the feeling this guy is secretly infatuated with you but is dealing with it on the emotional level of an 8 year old. Maybe next time he will run up to you, pull your hair, and then run away.

isiseyes · 6 months

This is why I bought a treadmill. Gyms terrify me because of behavior like this...it happens once and then you start to assume that everyone else is thinking the same thing about you and not saying it. (I know this is not true now, but at 22 it felt that way).

I'm glad you stood up for yourself. I never had the courage to do it myself when I was treated similarly.

Damey · 6 months

Good for you. :) /clap

Ink_Blot · 6 months

This... is so amazing.

Will you be my spirit animal?

mr_bunnyfish · 6 months

i bet you a thousand dollars he doesn't say "hey, beautiful"

aakaakaak · 6 months

Your mission, should you choose to accept it:

Find out his workout routines. Find out his choke points, the things he absolutely HAS to do and there are only 1-3 machines/benches he can do them on. Now before he has the opportunity to use them, hog them. Take your sweet ass time wiping them down before you exercise. Sit down. Take a pull from your water bottle. Glance around. Stretch a muscle you'll be using on the exercise device. Then slowly do a set. Stretch a little more. Take another pull from your water bottle. Then get ready for your second set.

About this time Mr. Gym will be a lovely shade of red, somewhere between brick and fire engine. He'll probably make a snide comment and ask/tell you he needs to use the machine.

Slowly turn around to face him, as if you didn't know he was there and say, "I'm just trying to work out so I'm not such a fatty. Now kindly go fuck yourself, since you're probably the only person who will."

Then watch him self destruct.

AirdustPenlight · 6 months

I'm pretty sure fat people in the gym are the only people I won't try to make hurt inside. It should be a rule you can't make fun of them.

They've recognized their problem, they're fixing the problem, it just takes time. They're trying, and that's all you can ask of anyone.

JustWordsInYourHead · 6 months

Wow, I can't believe there are actually people with such poor amount of self control. I don't know how he managed to survive this long.

pinball_life · 6 months

Hero of the day! Can I buy you a cape?

6 months

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SpecialKRJ · 6 months

Wow. Sounds like he never matured past Junior High. Good for you for not letting him get away with it. I know the proper response is to just ignore it, but when people are doing shit repeatedly, they need to have their ass handed to them.

EDIT: Oh, and congrats on the 12 pounds!

logan_guthrie · 6 months

OP, you WIN! Good on you for standing up for yourself! EDIT: Keep up your hard work and congrats on the 12 pounds. That's freakin' outstandin', you understand? ;-)

wormlips4lyfe · 6 months

go girl! guys like that feel like shit about the way they look no matter what their ego says on the outside. they are miserable losers. you're a winner boo, keep at it! I support you and your sexiness!

Cenelind · 6 months

Asshats like that do not deserve your time.

Do it for YOU.

Duneluder · 6 months

Good for you! Seriously, I don't understand the type of person who would even say shit like that. If I see an overweight person at the gym I think "fuck ya, you got this!" not "omigawd did you SEE that fat fatty?!" That is just absolutely ridiculous. If I went to the gym with people like that I would never go with them again. His friends are douches too if they let him say that shit.

I don't care if you're friends, I call my friends out on shit like that so they don't think it's ok or "funny." fuck that shit, they're ass holes.

Congrats on the 12 pounds! I need to get back at it and start pre-season training for snowboarding, and it is so damn hard to get to the gym....

hyloda · 6 months

I can't believe it took you that long to respond to him.

That's seriously so bizarre. I can't imagine someone calling me fat in the gym. Is he, like, 9? Why didn't you report him?

Edited to add: So you're at a school gym? Is it high school? College? WTF IS WRONG WITH THIS GUY??? This is just such bizarre behavior!

moist_towelette · 6 months

Your courage is inspiring!!!! I often feel like I'm too polite in these situations and avoid being confrontational. But THIS. Oh THIS. was totally appropriate. It's like we ALL won.

artoonie · 6 months

I'm sure it's been said already, but- 12 pounds in a month? Keep up the good work =)

dogebial · 6 months

Are you kidding. I can speak for every man when I say that you calling him out is not considered bitchy in any way. If I was at the gym and saw a guy say that to a girl he didn't know, even if she was so fat that she needed a treadmill for each leg, I would beat the ever living fuck out of him!

Cloisonne · 6 months

Good for you.

The best way to handle this is to freak your shit the FIRST TIME that someone says something to you. Then they will know that you are not one of the ones to fuck with. Remember: you teach people how to treat you, and there are no victims.

dhjin · 6 months

on a related note, whats the etiquette on highfives at the gym?

there is this woman i see at the gym regularly and i notice she's really losing loads of weight, really keeping at it i've been seeing her go at it consistently for almost 6months now. i'm not interested in her at all, i just kinda figure highfives are like irl upvotes. i wanna tell her "well done gurrll. dayum you must of shed a whole person by now. you at least half the figure and still all the woman." and then snap my fingers 3times in like a z formation.

FuchsiaGauge · 6 months

How in the world could you take all that before you said anything?! You weren't "letting the bitch out". You were simply standing up for yourself. Which was apparently long past due.

Doctor_Beard · 6 months

I don't think you were a bitch.

BookGirl23 · 6 months

Daaaaaayummmm. You go girl.

pepelepewpewpew · 6 months

FUCK YES. GOOD FOR YOU (and congrats on 12 lbs down!)!! That's just amazing.

Edit: I was brutally picked on one night and called the fat chick (at 5'4" and 155lbs, not the heaviest but enough in his opinion) and it ate (no pun intended) away at me for 2 years. I saw the guy every now and then and I SO SO SO SO WISH i had some amazing retort anywhere near this when it happened. I'm living in your glory haha so thank you. So happy for you.

drekthar · 6 months

Nicely delivered. What a fucking ass.

I don't get how people can go to the gym and not expect to see fat people. If anything they have the most right to be there, because they've decided at some point that they're not content with their weight and wish to do something about it. I think saying anything offensive to them should result in a lifetime ban. In fact anybody insulting anyone else for any reason in a gym should result in a lifetime ban.

It's bizarre that people get flak for being overweight and yet when they try to lose weight, they get even more flak for it. What's up with that?

greym84 · 6 months

Pulled a Churchill.

Bessie Braddock: Sir, you are drunk. Churchill: Madam, you are ugly. In the morning I shall be sober.

Nautzera · 6 months

Well done : D

all_the_days · 6 months

What a dick! And good for you for hitting up the gym and keeping healthy! Keep the positive attitude and the occasional bitch-out if necessary :)

jose-rancheros · 6 months

It is hard to believe that anyone would think it is ok to harass you like that. It makes me sad. I am happy that you spoke up though. Good for you!

jackys · 6 months

Who the hell even DOES this, insulting strangers at the gym?!? Good for you. Obviously he does not know how to exist in a public space.

jayforest · 6 months

Congrats for calling that douche out! He deserves it!

[deleted] · 6 months

You're my hero.

Dejarr · 6 months

Who the fuck goes to the gym and makes fun of people...

Drogo-Targaryen-2012 · 6 months

I am surprised someone would say that to somebody at the gym. I hardly talk to anyone while I am working out. I can't imagine saying something like that to a stranger.

I do call some of the girls I know fat, but it's always the non-fat ones and they understand that I am kidding. It usually stems from some other situation and is kind of an inside joke. One example is a co-worker who was basically called fat in a less direct way by a male co-worker who is 400lbs & literally looks like the forever alone guy. She told me this story and now I call her fat all the time as a joke.

Mlemac28 · 6 months

I think i would have let the bitch out the first time. While individual people may or may not be sensitive about their weight, "fat" is definitely one of the insults with the most venom. Since we are all taught from an early age that making fun of someone's weight is a major douche move, then whenever someone does break the social barrier and call someone fat, it is done with full intention of causing a lot of pain.

DownvoteThisCrap · 6 months

I heard this is legal in Michigan.

Hippocampus · 6 months

I'm drifting in from /r/fitness, and we over there don't tolerate doucheyness by gymgoers either. Keep rocking that gym!

Pinhedd · 6 months

I have a penis and I approve of this

PS: congrats

PFunkus · 6 months

Fuck that douchecanoe. Keep at that workin!

the04dude · 6 months

A witty chubby guy... FUCK... you will have those pounds off in NO TIME at this rate!!!

*edit: I realize now you are a lady. Rock on Ms.!!! Seriously if you've lost 12 already you will have no trouble hitting your target weight!

wanderlust2887 · 6 months

This is why I'm afraid to work out a gym. I'm about 100lbs overweight and I have no self esteem so something like that would absolutely crush me. Major props for standing up for yourself.

empress_bazooka · 6 months

Anytime someone actually notices you enough to make comment, they must be NOTICING you. Men who think you are shit will not say it to your face. If he is that bold, he must appreciate something he sees.

mememellie · 6 months

Upvote, girlfrannnn'!

thisgoesnowhere · 6 months

This is quite literally the least controversial post ever to grace the pages of the 2x subreddit. That guy is unbelievable and does not deserve your time or emotion. Keep up the good work.

glenaypia · 6 months

I hope he learned his lesson, but as you said, hes stuck being a douche for life, that doesnt exactly bode well for his ability to change his attitude. He is probably sitting at home right now trying to come up with some sort of comeback, and chances are it will be something like "Hey fatty, you're fat!" Just keep on doing you're thing, the gym is there for you, not him, he's just out-saying his welcome.

uselessbastard · 6 months

i'm a man. i'm drunk. but i love you.

shamecamel · 6 months

he be roid ragin' hard.

Go ahead and burn his ass, kudos for that, but I think you'll probably be doing lots of other girls favours by also reporting him to your school, not the guys who run the gym, as he might know people there. Take it to the top!

THEJinx · 6 months

If this is a public gym or a school gym, there should be someone you can report him to. If this is a public gym, you, as a paying customer, aren't there for him to abuse, and the management will usually take steps to prevent that. School gyms should also be willing to take a stand against bullying.

Watch him. I bet he picks a new victim, or just never returns.

Either way, congrats of standing up to him.

zorkie · 6 months

high five

londubhawc · 6 months

Dude, that's brilliant! (I know, mixing my dialects, sue me [SoCal + hiberno-english = odd])

It reminds me of Churchill's exchange with Lady Astor.

Krystofer · 6 months

A swift punch to the throat would have done nicely. No need to get all bitch on him.

tomoyopop · 6 months

Wait, you said this was at a UNIVERSITY gym? I thought he was in high school or something! Good for you!

Flaydogg · 6 months

This shit is why I refuse to go to the gym... Loved your response though!

randpand · 6 months

Good for you! I'm 5'1'' too btw so I know how hard that would be!

MandaMoo9588 · 6 months

You are my tiny little hero :) I wish I had half of your moxie

MissMally · 6 months

You are amazing! You go girl, way to stand up for yourself.

TALLY_HO · 6 months

You let that bitch out. I believe the technical term is "WERQ"

MsMorningstar · 6 months

You and your 5'1" self have made my hero list :)

babyslaughter2 · 6 months

Who the fuck goes around insulting strangers for no reason?

whatgoesup56 · 6 months

Proud of you, very proud of you.

Rude_Canadian · 6 months

thanks for telling him what he needed to hear.

we all nee da little perspective from time to time, he seems a bit out of wahck.

Peaceandallthatjazz · 6 months

Win!

WearingAMonocle · 6 months

I'm so sorry that you, or anyone, would have to go through something like this. As a guy I can't stand these types of people at the gym. The way you were treated is so demeaning and demoralising. A few unnecessary words can be very hurtful. Don't listen to this asshole!

I [male] attend a crossfit gym where everyone is incredibly supportive of one another, and even cheer each other on to finish their workouts. The groups are a mixture of guys and girls and it has a great atmosphere. This type of gym might be worth looking into, but either way, no one should have to tolerate what you did. Good for you for standing up for yourself!

realgenius13 · 6 months

I expect this guy wants to bang you but realizes you are too classy of a lady for him so he's trying to wear your self-esteem down low enough where you'll accept him. Sadly this works on women that aren't as strong as you.

jameseyjamesey · 6 months

the number one unspoken rule of any gym is don't talk shit.

(number two is always rack your weights)

Jilliterate · 6 months

Holy shitsnacks. Good for you for saying this, but jesus, what universe is this where it's acceptable for a total stranger to continuously call you names? This isn't junior high school. You're adults, and adults are supposed to treat each other with respect. When they don't, you report their asses.

Sexwax · 6 months

I love that. There were many ways you could've handled it, and instead of just saying something like "fuck you" you justified yourself for what you said, and he had nothing to say for it.

abigareyes · 6 months

Sometimes, you have to let the bitch out,... and it feels good.

Preach it girl!

Sophonax · 6 months

Oh my god, you're a better person than I am by far.

I would have tackled him and gone Tekken on his face for 20 minutes. Your patience is COMMENDABLE.

rasilvas · 6 months

The only response to that: "I can always lose weight but you can't grow a bigger dick"

picimadar · 6 months

Why the fuck did you even let him say it the first time?

yupitsani · 6 months

Good for you. But seriously, you should've reacted sooner. Being tolerant doesn't mean having to deal with assholes.

mandano · 6 months

You should have yelled at him the first time he said it. "excuse me, asshole, in way is what you just said socially acceptable? Fuck off before I report you."

exposed_knees · 6 months

That guy might not be fat, but he for sure isn't healthy.

the_superfantastic · 6 months

Man, you are REALLY nice.

The FIRST time somebody says something to me, they get The "Don't-Fuck-With-Me" (TM) Glare. Any time after that, it's all subversive tactics (blocking their way on the treadmill, stepping on their shit, etc.) - and then I MIGHT tell the people in charge. I'm not "from the streets" it's just that people like that need swift (read: immediate) rebuke, because they don't understand anything else.

Usually by the time their stuff starts getting messed up, they get the message.

crownofgrace · 6 months

Letting the bitch out does feel remarkably amazing. Unfortunately, you can't always do it, like when you're at work or school (usually). Also, major props to you for embracing a healthier lifestyle and also trying to be more relaxed and tolerant (which falls under the category of "healthier lifestyle" if you think about it)!

meiam001 · 6 months

You weren't "letting out the bitch". Fuck that guy, even as a male that would make me feel uncomfortable if someone was being so rude. I'm surprised none of the guys there have said anything, that's fucked.

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